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Because I am tired of assumptions.

If you are new to my blogs, if you do not know me well, I want to forewarn you: do NOT make assumptions about me. Odds are about 95% that your assumptions will be 100% WRONG.

1. If you assume that because I was assigned "male" at birth by idiot doctors, that this makes me "really a man," you are WRONG. I am a woman who had the misfortune to end up with the wrong genitals and DNA. If you cannot accept this FACT, and address me respectfully as a female, then please leave and never return.

If you have any questions about what "transgender" means, ask Google, and don't just go with one site's answers, because odds are pretty good that your first link of choice will be utter bullshit. Once you've educated yourself, if you have any questions for me, ask them respectfully, and listen to the answers respectfully and with an open mind, or don't bother at all.

2. If you assume based on my icons, my LJ or DW decorations, or ageplay-related posts that I am some kind of pedophile, you are WRONG. My decorations and icons are because I am a "little" in something called "age play," which is TWO OR MORE CONSENTING ADULTS ROLE PLAYING either as a means of self-therapy by mentally returning to a more innocent state, in the case of most littles; or, in the case of most "Bigs" (AKA "Guardians/Parents/Etc"), to focus on one's nurturing side, and to have a relationship as free of typical drama as possible. Real children are in no way involved. People into age play are not interested, that way, in real children. If you cannot accept these facts, then please go away and never return.

If you have any questions about what "age play" means, ask Google, and don't just go with one site's answers, because odds are pretty good that your first link of choice will be utter bullshit. Once you've educated yourself, if you have any questions for me, ask them respectfully, and listen to the answers respectfully and with an open mind, or don't bother at all.

3. If you assume, based on my stated belief that it is wrong to castrate or chemically castrate sex offenders, or on my inability to understand why child molestation is considered worse than murder, that this somehow means I agree with their crimes or am a sex offender myself, you are 1000% WRONG.
      A. The assumption, in the latter statement, seems to be that murder being worse than child molestation somehow implies that child molestation is not a crime, or is a minor crime. This assumption is as absurd; if I were to say that murder is worse than attempted murder, it would not imply that attempted murder is not a heinous crime. So too, child molestation is a very very bad crime, just like rape, and almost as bad as murder.
      B. The reason I believe it is wrong to castrate or chemically castrate sex offenders, ignoring for now the fact that the sex offender registry is being badly abused, is that not only does it not work at all to stop or prevent such crimes, I also believe it is unethical to commit acts of torture, mutilation, or murder upon someone as "punishment." Lock them up in prison, but it always pisses me off that people keep quoting "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind" and similar sentiments without actually THINKING about what they really mean. If you murder someone for murdering someone, then you become a murderer yourself, and by the laws should either be murdered in turn (creating an endless cycle of murder), or that someone is going to have to get away with murder, which is hypocritical, nonsensical, counter-productive, and completely insane. Likewise, torturing and/or mutilating someone for any crime is WRONG. Furthermore, I disagree with the sex offender registry anyway, because aside from all the abuses of it (all the myriad people put on it who have not committed any sex crimes at all), there's this to consider: if you think they're so dangerous that you must always keep tabs on them, then DON'T LET THEM OUT OF PRISON IN THE FIRST PLACE!
      I am a compassionate person. I always have been, and always will be, even when my language (in fits of anger or fear) does not reflect it. Compassion does NOT equal agreement with someone's worldview or actions. It is currently unpopular to have compassion for sex offenders, like it was unpopular in Jesus's time to have compassion towards criminals, prostitutes, and Jews who also practiced paganism (Samaritans). I don't care that it's unpopular to have compassion for them. I have compassion for everyone, no matter how vehemently I disagree with them.

If you cannot accept that it is possible to have compassion towards someone regardless of how evil their actions have been, then please leave and never return.
If you cannot accept that wanting someone to be treated with compassion or, at the very least, a lack of cruelty, does NOT equal agreement with their crimes and does NOT make one a sex offender by proxy, then please leave and never return.
If you cannot stand to be around someone who thinks that no crime, no matter how heinous, deserves torture, mutilation, and/or being put to death, then please leave and never return.

I will not apologize for being compassionate. I will not apologize for believing that torture, mutilation, and murder are ALWAYS WRONG NO MATTER WHAT. And I do not want anything to do with people who make their own false assumptions about me, especially without even giving me a chance to explain. I am a compassionate soul, and I am tired of being derided, labeled, even hated for baseless assumptions connected to my compassionate nature.

4. There is more than one mind in this body. Believe it or don't believe it, I don't care. But if you act like an ass to me for it, I will defriend you and ban you sofuckingfast. If you have any potentially stupid questions (which, if you're new to multiplicity, you probably do), either ask them respectfully (and listen respectfully with an open mind to the answers), or go to the links listed here, or don't bother asking at all.

I think that's all.

Crossposted from http://fayanora.dreamwidth.org

Comments

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arinwolfe
Jan. 13th, 2011 07:44 am (UTC)
I've always been one to sympathize with "bad guys" because they're people too.
fayanora
Jan. 13th, 2011 07:46 am (UTC)
You read all that already? o_O Wow.

I was always compassionate to begin with, and then in school it became very unpopular to be my friend because of bullies and the rumors they started about me, so as a result I treat people like people first and foremost, and make my own judgments of people's character. My "mutant power," which tells me if a person is good and/or trustworthy is almost never wrong.
arinwolfe
Jan. 13th, 2011 08:00 am (UTC)
"bad" people who directly influnce me are a bit harder for me to be nice to, i have an alex-grade temper when i feel hurt enough.
fayanora
Jan. 13th, 2011 08:04 am (UTC)
Yeah. It can take me a long time to get over hurts. I still hold a grudge against the bullies, and it's been decades.
bart_calendar
Jan. 13th, 2011 08:04 am (UTC)
There are really people who read your blog who don't understand these basic things about you?

Weird.

Anyway I've always found your ageplay posts to be fairly hot and while you don't talk about getting laid very often, the one post where you did write about getting some made it very clear that you are female (and the post was sexy too.)
fayanora
Jan. 13th, 2011 08:14 am (UTC)
There are really people who read your blog who don't understand these basic things about you?

Apparently. This rant came about because I friended back someone who friended me and requested a friend-back. 24 hours later, they defriended me. I was curious why, and they told me. And didn't bother to give me a chance to explain, blocking all forms of communication. They directly inspired 1, 2, and 3 from the rant. I added 4 because it seemed the thing to do, some people ask dumb questions about it, though I tend not to get too many of those sort.

Anyway I've always found your ageplay posts to be fairly hot and while you don't talk about getting laid very often, the one post where you did write about getting some made it very clear that you are female (and the post was sexy too.)

Cool. :-D
bart_calendar
Jan. 13th, 2011 08:20 am (UTC)
Girl brains describe sex differently than boy brains. You didn't describe it the way a gay man would. You described it the way a straight female would.
fayanora
Jan. 13th, 2011 08:23 am (UTC)
SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEE
bart_calendar
Jan. 13th, 2011 10:09 am (UTC)
Squee is how I felt reading that sex post.

I used to go back to it every so often but now it's so old I don't know how to find it anymore.
fayanora
Jan. 13th, 2011 10:11 am (UTC)
bart_calendar
Jan. 13th, 2011 10:42 am (UTC)
That's the one. more entries like that please!
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fayanora
Jan. 14th, 2011 02:35 am (UTC)
Bart_calendar writes porn for a living, so he might have an advantage over us mere mortals.
dirty__glamour
Jan. 13th, 2011 12:31 pm (UTC)
I'm reminded why I added you - you're not only interesting, but articulate & intellectual.
fayanora
Jan. 14th, 2011 02:33 am (UTC)
:-D
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fayanora
Jan. 14th, 2011 02:33 am (UTC)
Whoops! Thanks for pointing that out.
natf
Jan. 15th, 2011 12:43 am (UTC)
I have always wondered whether this LJ is written by you all or by only one of the multiplicity and, if the latter, who the others are and if they have LJs. If this is crossing a line, I apologise and will not expect an answer.

P.S. I never expect someone to add me back these days. It took me a while but I learned years ago that an LJFriend is not the same as a f2f bff. It is a SO different thing.

I hate that you had to deal with this bigotted LJ-er. I admit that I had been reading you for a long time before I even realised that you were not biologically female with blonde hair because so many of your icons show blonde girls! Yeah, okay, my bad for assuming, but there is no way that I would have derived that you were a paedophile from your journal. *facepalm*

By the way, I am NOT an Atlantic Puffin! ;-p

Edited at 2011-01-15 12:48 am (UTC)
fayanora
Jan. 15th, 2011 12:51 am (UTC)
Oh that's okay. Mostly it's a system journal, but Alex has his own LJ for his own stuff at alex_antonin, which he posts in frequently. Others who have their own LJs but don't post very often are:

1. Lolita Leigh Smith. luciferian_chic
2. Molly Elizabeth molly_elizabeth
3. Pi and Negarahn svaenohr
fayanora
Jan. 15th, 2011 12:56 am (UTC)
PS
P.S. I never expect someone to add me back these days. It took me a while but I learned years ago that an LJFriend is not the same as a f2f bff. It is a SO different thing.

Yes, but one can become the other. My closest F2F bff I first met online as kengr, and now lives two blocks from me. I also used to live with Lilla, whom I met online, though I didn't meet her on Livejournal. And I have a couple other LJ friends I've met in real life.

I hate that you had to deal with this bigotted LJ-er. I admit that I had been reading you for a long time before I even realised that you were not biologically female with blonde hair because so many of your icons show blonde girls!

LOL, yeah, Molly likes those kind of icons. We have a lot of Molly influence on this LJ despite her having her own LJ.

Yeah, okay, my bad for assuming, but there is no way that I would have derived that you were a paedophile from your journal. *facepalm*

Good to know. :-)

By the way, I am NOT an Atlantic Puffin! ;-p

It would be astounding if you were. :-)
natf
Jan. 15th, 2011 11:35 pm (UTC)
Re: PS
*hugs* Well, thank you for the links to your others' accounts. I hope you don't mind if I read/friend some of them?

Also, a puffin typing? Maybe I use voice-squak to text! ;-p
fayanora
Jan. 16th, 2011 12:36 am (UTC)
Re: PS
LOL. Sure, go ahead. Just be aware that Alex uses his LJ to vent his spleen and be a sarcastic ass. :-)
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fayanora
Jan. 16th, 2011 06:42 am (UTC)
Re: PS
*Ponders* Apology accepted.
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fayanora
Jan. 18th, 2011 04:34 am (UTC)
Re: PS
So apparently it wasn't personal.

Edited at 2011-01-18 04:47 am (UTC)
reneemaris
Jan. 16th, 2011 02:04 am (UTC)
It all sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

BTW, I do wear glasses - but my hair's more of a reddish brown.
fayanora
Jan. 16th, 2011 02:12 am (UTC)
Cool. :-)
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fayanora
Dec. 2nd, 2011 10:12 am (UTC)
Thanks! :-D
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