A friend of mine recently said, I've heard people say things like "She's really pretty, but she has such an ugly personality". For me, that's a contradiction. If a person has an unpleasant personality, they don't appear attractive to me. It is the norm, for me, for a person's perceived attractiveness to change as I get to know them better, either becoming more attractive if their personality clicks with mine, or less attractive if their personality clashes with mine.
This was my response:
With me, it goes ever farther. People literally change appearance to me as I get to know them. Though nothing about the face, etc. changes, they still look very different after knowing them awhile than they did when we first met. I mean, yeah; if I compare the two images in my mind (the memory of how they looked, and how they look now), the images are identical. But at the same time, they don't look the same at all.
This applies whether I like the person or not. Oh, and it applies to places, too. An unfamiliar place can look exactly the same as it does later under familiarity, and yet still look completely different. It's like when you look at a piece of wood that someone says looks like Richard Nixon, but you don't think it looks like anything at all, and then suddenly you see Richard Nixon's face in it and you can't ever un-see it.
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PERFECT metaphor! I finally found the perfect metaphor for that phenomena!
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