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October 15th, 2019

Closure

Last night I got to thinking, there are people who used to be really close friends that I never hear from anymore. It's not that they ghosted me, AFAIK, they just... they were active online, and then just stopped. Their social media accounts died (still there but never updated, not even to say "hi I'm still alive, just taking some me time), their online activity ceased. They don't answer their email. We used to communicate every day, and now nothing.

This is really sad. What happened to them? Are they okay? Did they get burnout and have to stop, to the point they couldn't even leave a message on their social media saying so? Did they get arrested? Are they even alive?

That last one really gets to me. Someone who used to be a close friend, and they could be dead. I can't mourn them if I don't know what happened. I can be sad we don't communicate anymore, but without knowing they're dead, they could be alive. At least with Lily, I got texted the night they found her, by Jesse. I live in town, so I could have found out later if not for that. But her mom still hasn't put her FB account into memorial status, so there could be friends of hers who don't know she's passed on. Which is part of why I put reminders of that on her wall sometimes. People who loved her should know.

It just sucks, not having closure.

This was cross-posted from https://fayanora.dreamwidth.org/1484678.html
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