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Words hurt

Having an argument with someone on Quora about PewDiePie being booted from YouTube for his disgusting racist jokes, and they said something that I am going to repeat here, along with my response.

Them: Humour is humour, jokes mean nothing.

Me: If you really believe that, you are an idiot.

Them: I'm a firm believer of. “Words mean nothing.” why trivialise something so… intangible and dumb? They are so subjective that does it really matter?

Me: Clearly you were never bullied growing up, nor experienced any kind of verbal abuse from anyone. Words mean things; if they didn’t, they wouldn’t be words. And words can hurt. Words can leave scars that never fade, deep emotional scars. Words can even kill; people can be bullied so badly, even with “just” words that they commit suicide. And slurs and racist/oppressive words have hundreds or even thousands of years of pain and hatred and death behind them. When you joke about something like “kill all Jews,” you’re declaring to the world that you’re siding with a very long history of pain and death. Whether you mean to or not, you are hurting people with words like that. Trivializing those words trivializes the pain they cause. You might as well be pointing and laughing at someone as they’re being beaten bloody by a dozen people at once when you say shit like “words mean nothing” or “it’s just a joke.”

If you can say “words mean nothing” with a straight face, you’re either really stupid or you’re emotionally/verbally abusive yourself. If the former, that’s sad and I’m not in the mood to waste further time trying to educate you. If the latter, I want nothing to do with you ever again for what I feel should be obvious reasons, given what I’ve already said.

This was cross-posted from http://fayanora.dreamwidth.org/1334426.html
You can comment either here or there.


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Mar. 24th, 2017 10:26 pm (UTC)

Also telling is the fact that both women and children who are abused say that cruel words hurt worse than beatings, so yeah-- words count!
Apr. 7th, 2017 02:37 pm (UTC)
Words hurt

Words can hurt, that’s for sure. During my previous relationship and marriage, there were times that my ex would say things that made me feel bad. What was I supposed to do? Pretend like there was absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever? That was so difficult to do. The last part of the marriage was so stressful. Rather than there being love, I didn’t think he wanted me around anymore. If it was sunny outside, I held clouds and rain on the inside.
Now I’m with Sean, and he is totally understanding about what I went through. That’s definitely why he tries not to say things that are upsetting. Ron did that, when he didn’t want to help me with laundry. He wouldn’t even make sure I had food to eat—wouldn’t prepare something for me before he left. He’d just walk out without a word. If Sean goes anywhere, he’ll let me know. Then, it’s like a celebration when he returns, watching the Cubs game—looking forward to what’s yet to come.
Apr. 9th, 2017 02:13 am (UTC)
Re: Words hurt
Glad you found someone who appreciates you!
Apr. 9th, 2017 01:28 pm (UTC)
Re: Words hurt
I thought things were looking up. Until just before dinner yesterday, that is. I got something in the mail that ended up re-opening the past old wounds. I got a copy of the divorce documents-- almost a year after the divorce was finalized. What progress I made in recovering from that mess now seems to have gone out the window. It's gotten me down again.
Apr. 10th, 2017 07:37 am (UTC)
Re: Words hurt
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