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kengr
Oct. 5th, 2015 12:27 am (UTC)
Sat, 22:40: hey it would be great if people could reblog this - sheofthevoid: so mainstreaming people love to share... http://t.co/006QEHymsz

There are similar issues for blind people. Listening to Lin talk about all the surgeries to "improve" her eyesight that actually made things worse hurts. And there's the whole "but *we* know better than you" BS.

BTW, do keep in mind that *we* have the issues about talking too loud too. Especially if we had parents into the old school "kids should be *quiet*" bit.

And there's no way from my side that I can tell if I need to talk louder this time. I can't even tell if the "usual" "get fay's attention" bit has worked or not until you ask me to repeat something.

ETA:
Also, there's a *reason* why people walk *beside* each other to talk...

Edited at 2015-10-05 12:28 am (UTC)
fayanora
Oct. 5th, 2015 06:24 am (UTC)
We shall keep that in mind. It is good information to have.
fayanora
Oct. 5th, 2015 06:31 am (UTC)
PS
Also, there's a *reason* why people walk *beside* each other to talk...

Yes, and for some reason I have a lot of difficulty walking beside people. Part of it is that I have a set pace I can go at, and if I try to go faster or slower, my legs are MUCH quicker to start hurting than they otherwise would. Another part is not wanting to take up too much space on sidewalks so that others can get by. And lastly, I have some kind of bizarre psychological issue against walking beside people even when there's plenty of room, that I don't know the source of, wherein I have to either trail behind or go ahead, because staying beside someone even when there's room and the other person is matching my pace rather than me matching theirs, there's still this pressure in my mind that gets more intense the longer I'm at someone's side, which doesn't go away until I fall behind or go on ahead. I wish I knew what that was all about, but in a case of classic Fay density, I only just now identified that issue consciously.
kengr
Oct. 5th, 2015 06:20 pm (UTC)
Re: PS
I have that same pace issue, it's just that I have a wider range. A slow stroll gets bad quickly, but I'm fine up to a really fast walk (my leg may not complain, but I might get short of breath at the faster rates)

If you are behind someone, you can't hear them unless they turn around so far that it is both highly uncomfortable, and dangerous (as in they can't see where they are going.

If you are ahead of them, they they can't hear you (that's why I keep trying to catch up when you get ahead).

A thought that almost immediately occurred to me when you described your issue with walking beside someone.

What do you want to bet that it's a defense mechanism you came up with so that people *wouldn't* talk with you? Given things you've said about family and school, it wouldn't surprise me.
fayanora
Oct. 5th, 2015 06:23 pm (UTC)
Re: PS
What do you want to bet that it's a defense mechanism you came up with so that people *wouldn't* talk with you? Given things you've said about family and school, it wouldn't surprise me.

Oh. That sounds highly likely.
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