The Djao'Mor'Terra Collective (fayanora) wrote,
The Djao'Mor'Terra Collective

Disabled ableism

Even people who are disabled can be ableist, even unintentionally. My GF has depression and is an Aspie, like me, but trying to get her to understand how my IBS can affect me is extremely difficult. She keeps asking me to tell her the day before if I think I can make it to meet her or not, and I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve tried explaining to her that it just doesn’t work that way. My IBS can strike at random, even if I think I’ve been good about eating, one little thing can leave me waking up knowing I can’t be away from a bathroom for long.

Add in a strange sleep cycle that is hard to predict, and there are times when I’m up so late that I’d only get like, 3 hours sleep before meeting with her, which just isn’t enough, and by the time I realize I’m not going to be able to meet with her for that reason, it’s already the next day. And the tiredness addles my ability to think clearly, so I often end up shutting down the computer before realizing to send her a FB message about it. And even if I did, she wouldn’t get it herself until too late anyway because she’s a day sleeper herself as well.

Then add in the heat wave we’ve been having lately, and any spoons I may have had tend to go towards just getting through the day without melting.

So yeah, I keep telling her I can’t predict ahead of time whether I’ll have the spoons to go meet her or not, but she just doesn’t seem to get it.

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Tags: disabilities, ibs
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