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Much awkwardness

I was at the grocery store earlier, and some woman started talking to me like I was someone she knew and hadn't seen me in ages. It was very awkward, as such things always are for me, because I had no idea who this person was. She was not even remotely familiar. I thought, like it often turns out, that I had just forgotten her face, so I just nodded or whatever. But it turned out we'd never met... she'd just seen me at the store a lot and liked my hair, and hadn't seen me in a while. But that made it even more awkward, because it went from "someone I don't remember is talking to me" to "why is this strange woman I've never met talking to me as though we're friends?" I was very glad to be rid of her, finally.

I really don't understand people who start chatting up random strangers. Since I'm easily overwhelmed by sensory input, I tune a lot of stuff out, including people I don't know, unless I have a reason to tune in... so all people I don't know tend to be practically identical automatons as far as I'm concerned. It's part of the reason I sucked at customer service jobs. If a customer ordered something, walked away, and came back a few minutes later, I wouldn't recognize them. Unless it was one of our regulars. All those mannequins look alike to me.

Now, there *are* contexts where I pay attention to unfamiliar faces, to try to remember them. Like meetups. But the grocery store while I'm shopping is not among these. And in those contexts, I get *really* wrong-footed, annoyed, and/or creeped out by people I don't know trying to chat me up for no relevant reason. It's not quite as bad as it would be for most people being chatted up by a lamp-post or a tree, but it's along the same lines.

Actually, I have talked with trees before... no lamp-posts, yet. But that would actually be kind of fascinating.

This was cross-posted from http://fayanora.dreamwidth.org/1058935.html
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Feb. 2nd, 2012 03:27 pm (UTC)

My wife had very low vision - she was legally blind when I met her. AT BEST her vision was like TV with poor reception picking up an out-of-town UHF station. So people were these moving blurs…

At whom she smiled and waved, because they might be someone she knew and she didn't want to snub friends! Surprised strangers were charmed by her outgoing friendliness, and often smiled and waved back. Ignorance was indeed bliss; she added human joy to her daily interactions.

That's just how she was. I loved her dearly.

Feb. 3rd, 2012 12:39 am (UTC)
I don't mind unexpected waves and smiles. What bugs me is people I don't know chatting me up.
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