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Stupidity is repulsive

A character on this one show is the stereotypical airheaded blonde pinup girl. All the men are drooling at her. Whereas if I were there, I'd be turning away in disgust and making gagging noises. Intelligence is sexy to me. Its opposite is repulsive, in turn.

Crossposted from http://fayanora.dreamwidth.org

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baron_waste
Jan. 3rd, 2012 10:31 am (UTC)

Sneer as you will: She's winning the evolutionary cookie. I wrote of this earlier; she sounds like

… what Elinor Glyn called a fluffy - pretty and sexy and artlessly charming and just a bit overwhelmed by life - someone who really needed help. A girl who aroused a fiercely protective instinct, a desire to protect her and take care of her, to shield her from all worries and unhappiness… and at the same time, an equally fierce desire to ravish her into a helpless, incoherent mess. As El Santo would phrase it a hundred years later, “I'm pretty and dumb - wanna fuck?”

(Both instincts play their role in evolutionary biology: The 'dumb blonde' exists because she works.
Men prefer their dates with her
She makes them feel so smart
Maybe My Friend Irma
Is not so foolish after all…)


Any number of famous “dumb blondes” were nothing of the kind: Jayne Mansfield, Diana Dors, Marilyn Monroe, &c. (The fact that none of these were naturally blonde but were made so may be significant!)

Me, I'll take a “cute, quiet, sexy, nerdy girl in glasses” over that any day: She's not manipulative, which the giggling not-dumb blonde is.
fayanora
Jan. 4th, 2012 01:32 am (UTC)
Ah yes. Just because evolution favors it doesn't mean it's necessarily good or bad.
lucky_star10
Jan. 3rd, 2012 12:25 pm (UTC)
That Jayne Mansfield had some large breasts!
baron_waste
Jan. 3rd, 2012 12:44 pm (UTC)

In a TV-movie biopic some years ago she was portrayed by Loni Anderson, which was dead-on, almost autobiographical: Ms Anderson is very far from stupid, but it was being a “big-breasted blonde in a bikini” that made her fame and fortune. (Jayne M's Hungarian bodybuilder boyfriend was played by Arnold Schwarzenegger, and the two became friends, later appearing in soft-drink commercials together.)

acelightning
Jan. 3rd, 2012 07:42 pm (UTC)
When I was a young, very plain, teenage girl, I was, of course, strongly attracted to the more intelligent teenage boys around me. Alas, they were only attracted to the conventionally "pretty" girls, all of whom were airheads. I couldn't understand that, and I still don't. As an intelligent female, I had absolutely no interest in stupid males, so why did the intelligent males choose stupid females?

Furthermore, when I bemoaned the fact that boys didn't like me, my adult female relatives counseled me to pretend to be stupid in order to seem more attractive! "Boys don't like it when a girl is smarter than they are. Just don't say or do things that show how smart you really are." WTF, Aunt M? I have to LIE to be "popular"? No fucking thanks!

Fortunately, in my twenties I started meeting people who were far more attracted by intelligence and personality than by physical appearance - exactly the way I've been all along.


fayanora
Jan. 4th, 2012 01:07 am (UTC)
>>>why did the intelligent males choose stupid females?<<<

Because a lot of straight men have a second brain in their penis, and only enough blood to operate one brain at a time. So if the penis brain is being used, the other one shuts down. This is most acute when the males in question are teenagers.
acelightning
Jan. 4th, 2012 02:47 am (UTC)
All of the men I've met who are attracted to intelligent women seem to have penises that function perfectly well ;-)

And I've heard people describe themselves as "sapiosexual" - intelligence turns them on. I'm that way myself.


fayanora
Jan. 4th, 2012 05:27 am (UTC)
Yes, but you see, they've learned how to ignore the penis brain. Or maybe they have extra blood. :-)

Yup, I like the term sapiosexual too.
baron_waste
Jan. 4th, 2012 03:11 pm (UTC)

Teenagers are hormones with feet. Party girls trump smarty girls: Female intelligence is irrelevant to the primal drive. Indeed, male intelligence is only relevant to the extent that it is of use, viz., of two guys otherwise equivalent, the one who is a decent guitar player and speaks an interesting foreign language and does amateur theatricals is more interesting than the other who watches football and gets high. More interesting = more successful. In a girl these same abilities are irrelevant, while a guy whose IQ is introspective sits alone.

Later, of course, the situation changes, and that girl herself becomes more interesting. But high school is The Blackboard Jungle™, where mating displays of both sexes follow basic patterns.

fayanora
Jan. 5th, 2012 02:31 am (UTC)
Yes, it isn't the smartest or best male, it's the male with the showiest display. Not much different from how birds do it, except in humans, males with showy plumage aren't after females necessarily.
acelightning
Jan. 5th, 2012 03:59 am (UTC)
I would think that, biologically, males would want to mate with women who were not only physically "good breeders", but also demonstrated desirable traits such as intelligence and creativity, so that they would give birth to superior offspring.

Also, keep in mind that I was only 16 when I graduated from high school, and the behavior of the older teenagers seemed immature to me.


baron_waste
Jan. 5th, 2012 01:33 pm (UTC)

I would think that -</i>

So might they, five or twenty-five years later. But fayanora has the right of it: thinking isn't really high on the priorities. (What teenager cares about the qualities of his offspring? He wants to get laid! If she gets knocked up it's a disaster, not the next branch of the genealogical tree!)

acelightning
Jan. 6th, 2012 04:34 am (UTC)
I wasn't talking about thinking anyway. Males are biologically hard-wired to find certain physical characteristics sexually arousing, because those characteristics make good biological sense. Wide hips - easy childbirth. Large breasts - plentiful milk for the child. Long legs and smooth skin - she is young and healthy, and will have healthy children. But a man doesn't stop and think about these things; he just sees a curvaceous female and gets a hardon. I just think it makes as much sense for intelligence and cleverness to be arousing, because they're just as valuable in a potential mate as a good milk supply.

fayanora
Jan. 6th, 2012 04:37 am (UTC)
Cleverness and intelligence are practically brand new, evolutionarily speaking, whereas the rest of it is many tens or hundreds of millions of years older. Old genetic habits die hard.
acelightning
Jan. 7th, 2012 08:18 am (UTC)
Cleverness is a lot older than you might think. Someone who devised a lever that added extra reach to spear-throwing would be a better hunter, and have more to eat. Someone who folded leaves together to form a pouch could carry more berries (especially while also carrying an infant or toddler), and would likewise have more to eat. Someone who noticed that chewing pine needles in the winter kept your teeth from falling out would be healthier and have healthier offspring.

lucretiasheart
Jan. 4th, 2012 08:54 pm (UTC)
Agreed.
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